“After Gomer had weaned Lo-ruhamah, she again became pregnant and gave birth to a second son. And the lord said, ‘Name him Lo-ammi—Not my people—for Israel is not my people, and I am not their God. Yet the time will come when Israel will prosper and become a great nation. In that day its people will be like the sands of the seashore—too many to count! Then, at the place where they were told, ‘You are not my people,’ it will be said, ‘You are children of the living God.’ Then the people of Judah and Israel will unite under one leader, and they will return from exile together. What a day that will be—the day of Jezreel—when God will again plant His people in His land. In that day you will call your brothers Ammi—My people. And you will call your sisters Ruhamah—‘the ones I love.’” Hosea 1:8-11 New Living Traslation
Not long ago, I discovered someone I knew very well had been conceived as the result of an affair. The child had been put up for adoption because there were two families involved, including a married woman with six children and a husband. The reason given for the adoption was the baby had health issues the birth mother was unable to handle.
Over the years this person struggled with the issue of being thrown away, not wanted. The struggle revealed itself in an immense amount of anger. The anger was released every day in some form of violence. For several years the young person hadn’t known why the mother and father who conceived them also put them up for adoption. All this person knew for certain was they were not wanted by the birth parents, so the biological parents gave this baby to someone else. However, that wasn’t the real story. The baby was wanted, unfortunately there were circumstances involved making things extremely complicated. Life is never as cut and dry as we would prefer.
Wouldn’t it be nice, very stress relieving, to have just two choices? Make one choice then move on without all the drama many options offer us. Gone are the challenges we are plagued with when we are surrounded by choices.
Often there may be several options equally fine to choose, not one of them is better than any of the others. Then there are other times when no matter which you end up choosing, all are a disaster! Let’s not forget the in-between choices; we won’t know what their impact will be until we experience the results of our decision! I personally am not overly fond of those choices! I prefer a little more information when decisions need to be made.
Just like the person put out for adoption, we can never know someone else’s story. It is not possible. That is why it is so dangerous to make any judgements on or about another person. You and I do not have enough information to decide anything about someone else! While I would like to be able to say I have this down, no sweat, that would be a lie — a big one! It is far too easy to jump into a snap judgement!
We are way too good at making snap judgements, doing it over and over. It is especially inappropriate when Jesus said, “DON’T JUDGE!” We desperately need to stay in the process that is Grace. Grace in process is a transforming work of the Father, the Son, and the Comforter. It is the Holy Spirit who moves us from judging, an action that has destroyed so many, because we cannot help but use it inappropriately. Any time we pass judgement on another person it is wrong, we are taking on what God has declared is His and His alone!
First and foremost God through Jesus has reclaimed this world, its inhabitants, and everything which was God’s originally and is God’s once more. Now the work of restoration has begun, restoring those who dwell here to their original pre-rebellion model! God Himself tells us He wants no one to miss that most fantastic of miracles, the Celebration of the Homecoming that is ours, just a little long in the fulfillment.
Hosea is a man difficult to describe, but if I may, Hosea was truly a Man. It is difficult to live with the male ego; it is something so fragile. I think the male ego developed that fragility in the Garden of Eden when Adam chose to surrender rather than to fight for the woman he loved. This is just my opinion, nothing more. However, I don’t think I am very far off with this hypothesis. As examples you might want to check out Abraham who lied about Sarah twice, and bought into Sarah’s scheme to produce a son. Isaac followed his father’s example with Rebecca. This is just a very small listing of times we find the male ego in fragility choosing an easy way out.
So far in his story Hosea has stayed the course with God even with the questionable parentage of his children. Not just once, twice, but three times and Hosea stayed with the plan God called him to accomplish. Nearly three years into Hosea’s and Gomer’s marriage there are three children, two boys and one daughter. There are questions as to who fathered each child. For three years Hosea has been living what I would classify as a nightmare existence. Day by day Hosea fulfills his responsibilities as a husband and father providing for the family God has placed under his responsibility and protection, yet he has no idea who may be the biological father(s). Hosea is their father as far as God is concerned!
I had never before considered Hosea’s circumstances as being provided by God. However, they were arranged by God. It was God who brought Hosea and Gomer together. It was God who created the children, placing them in the care of Hosea. Hosea was the father of those children as far as God was concerned, and as for as Hosea was concerned. That just blows my mind! (Sorry for the 1970s exclamation, I reverted for a moment!) I have just decided I want to meet this man Hosea! I want to sit with him listening to him share this story from his first-person account. Already I am developing an admiration for this man who is revealing what it means to be a real man, a man after Gods own heart!
What would happen if men could serve not only God as in the character of Hosea, but their wives and their children? This leaves me a little shell shocked. What has just happened as I have been writing this is another one of those A-ha moments! A moment when the Holy Spirit is in my face saying, “Are you listening?” I know it is always for my best when this happens, but there are times when I just hate it! It means once more I am not as “all that” as I was secretly hoping I was! This journey through Hosea’s and Gomer’s story, this story of God’s Love for His people, is growing in its challenge and we have just started! All I am able to say now is, buckle your seat belts, this rocket is going hyper speed! Thanks for joining us, a trip like this is always better with friends.
Do you agree with my thoughts on the fragility of the male ego?
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